Leadership Tip

How to improve interpersonal conflicts

In today’s fast-paced and often high-pressure work environments, the ability to navigate interpersonal relationships is more critical than ever. Even the most capable teams experience conflict - it’s a natural byproduct of collaboration, diversity of thought, and ambitious goals. Conflicts are inevitable, but how we respond to them defines our leadership.

  1. Don’t hide behind technology. Conflict resolution is rarely effective through text or email. These channels often lack nuance and can escalate misunderstandings. When tension arises, prioritise a face-to-face conversation - either in person or via video. Address the issue directly, with empathy and a genuine desire to understand.
     
  2. Start with self-reflection. Ask yourself: “How might my personal biases or assumptions be contributing to this conflict?” Then, identify three behaviours or habits you could change to help ease the tension. Write them down and commit to practicing these changes consistently over the next three months.
     
  3. Invite honest feedback. Engage the other person in the conversation. Ask: “What can I do differently to reduce the friction between us?” Be prepared to hear feedback that may be uncomfortable - but listen without defensiveness. True growth often begins with hard truths.
     
  4. Shift perspectives. Take a moment to view the situation from their standpoint. How do you think they perceive your efforts to mend the relationship? Are your actions aligned with your intentions?
     
  5. Focus on strengths and benefits. Make a list of five positive qualities or strengths you see in the other person. Then, write down five ways improving your relationship with them could benefit your work, your team, or your own development. Focusing on mutual value creates motivation for collaboration.

The above leadership tip...
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