Leadership Tip

How to work with enemies

Getting along and working with people you don’t like is a challenge and not being able to do it can derail your career. Here are three ways to manage your enemies. 

  1. Reflect on the cause of the tension. And consider honestly your own role in creating it. If you can change your own reactions and reach out, and see things from their point of view, your enemy may transform into someone you can work with.
     
  2. Become a problem solver, not a critic. Instead of competing, try collaborating. Ask your colleague how you might both work together better to resolve problems. Instead of asserting your own point of view, ask open-ended questions about theirs and have the patience to listen to the answers.
     
  3. Ask for help. This shows that you value the other person’s intelligence and experience. 

Such advice will not necessarily turn you into great friends, of course, but you will be much better colleagues and you may find you like each other more than you suspected. It is possible to work effectively with people you don’t like. The key is to take the lead yourself and, if possible, act while the cement is wet.


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