Leadership Tip

How to deal with difficult people

Sometimes, difficult people are not so easy to recognise. A situation can make a person difficult. Someone who refuses to budge an inch from their stance or opinion can create a miserable workplace atmosphere. Here are some effective tactics you can apply to deal with your difficult colleagues:

  1. Detach yourself. Don’t allow the person to see you wound up or behaving irrationally.
     
  2. Don’t’ take it personally. It helps to be aware of cultural differences that might be behind someone’s behaviour; it’s not personal.
     
  3. Pick your battles. Do a mental cost-benefit analysis on a workplace relationship. It may be that the negatives of getting involved outweigh the benefits.
     
  4. Seperate person and issue. Be soft on the person, hard on the issue. This enables you to manage the difficult relationship whilst achieving what you need.
     
  5. Inject some humour. Many difficult situations can be deflected with a disarming smile or a good dose of well-timed humour.

The above leadership tip...
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