How to stop sabotaging yourself

When faced with a big challenge, it's tempting to anticipate the obstacles that might get in the way, and use them as an excuse not to move forward. But this type of self-handicapping will prevent you from reaching your potential. Here's how to stop it:

1. Watch for the warning signs. These include holding back, generating lists of excuses, or excessively focusing on the potential obstacles.
    
2. Articulate goals, not excuses. Use "what-ifs" and "if-onlys" to help generate ideas about how you might remove obstacles. For example, if you think you might fail because you lack a certain skill, find out how to acquire it.
    
3. Manage your negative emotions. When faced with obstacles (and there are always some), you're likely to feel disappointment or anger. Be kind to yourself in working through these emotions and focus on what you can change.

The above leadership tip...
was sent in response to a question from a participant on our 10/10 leadership development and mentoring programme and adapted from Don't Sabotage Yourself by Susan David. Whether you're a first time manager or an experienced leader, straightforward, practical advice on best practice is hard to find. Until now. To find out how you, your team or your organisation can benefit, please join us on our next complimentary webinar or contact us.