Leadership Tip

How to make conflict collaborative, not combative

Shying away from open, healthy conflict about work issues may make you feel like a nice person, but it’s an unproductive habit.

Although conflict can be uncomfortable, it is the source of true innovation and a critical process in identifying and mitigating risks. Attention to your delivery can help you maintain your self-image as a nice person - even in conflict. When dealing with someone who disagrees with you, try these tactics to remain collaborative, not combative:

1. Express your contrary opinion as an “and,” not a “but.” It’s not necessary for someone else to be wrong for you to be right.

2. Ask open-ended questions rather than stating conclusions. “How is that going to land with our customers?” feels much less aggressive than “Our customers will be angry.”


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