Leadership Tip

How to handle a colleague you dislike

Working with a difficult person can be distracting and draining. Next time a colleague irritates you to no end, try these three things:

  1. Manage your reaction. If someone annoys you, don't focus on their behaviour. Focus on how you react, which is usually the only thing you can control.
     
  2. Keep it to yourself. Emotions are contagious, so complaining about a co-worker can bring everyone down. And it can reflect negatively on you. If you must vent, do it outside the office.
     
  3. Work together. It's counterintuitive, but by spending more time together you may develop empathy for your colleague. You might discover reasons for their behaviour: stress at home, pressure from his boss, etc.

The above leadership tip...
was sent in response to a question from a participant on our 10/10 leadership development and mentoring programme. Whether you're a first time manager or an experienced leader, straightforward, practical advice on best practice is hard to find. Until now. To find out how you, your team or your organisation can benefit, please join us on our next complimentary webinar or contact us.

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